How has your week been so far? Have you already started decorating for Christmas or is the daily life hustle in the way?
On Monday ,I had a thought about how to bring more freedom and enjoyment into the next weeks and I thought this could be worth a share.
Every year nearly everyone seems to have the same problem. All my friends and people I know keep telling that time is running so fast, that they are not really looking forward to the pre Christmas period, that they feel overwhelmed by all the demands society, work, family etc. is loading upon us.
There is an overall feeling of exhaustion mixed with guilt. We all would like to craft our decoration ourselves, write thousands of handwritten cards to all the people we know, buy special and thoughtful presents for everyone, spend lots of time sitting in front of the open fire, play board games with the kids, drink lots of tea - we all would like to have more time.
Instead we are rushing from one event to the other, trying to juggle the end of year mess at work while organising everything at home. We don’t want to let people down. We try our best but still that doesn’t seem to be enough. And on top of it, we are still in a pandemic! We still feeling very exhausted from the last months.
I am feeling the same. And I no longer want to feel like that. That’s something I realised on Monday. On Monday I came up with the idea instead of writing a to-do-list for December I will write a not-to-do-list.
It’s a kind of prioritising. How do we want to feel within the next month? What is important for that? Do we really need an extraordinary Christmas decoration at home? Do we really need to please all people around us? Do our kids need thousands of presents? Do we need a perfect organised Christmas and how would it feel if not?
If we want more time, we simply need to stop doing things. It’s as simple as that!
So, I invite you to take a moment, cuddle down on the sofa and have a go with this Stop-Doing-List:
What can you let go within the next weeks?
How do you want to feel and what do you need for that?
What boundaries do you need to put in place in order to have more “ feel good” time, in order to have the possibility to really enjoy the Christmas time?
If you have family or partners, it definitely makes sense to integrate them at the end, because together you will be way more powerful in protecting your boundaries.
I can promise you: it will feel so good!!!
I am wishing you a great start into a wonderful season- a season of joy, calm and connection!
